My Best friends father was just told he has Cancer. My friend told me and said they are giving him 30% with treatment and stuff and my friend has just been really bummed out. What can I do to help cheer him up and be there for him? I mean I'm good with most things but when it comes to death I'm indifferent to it. It doesn't effect me like it does other people I mean everyone has a time and that all there is to it. But I hate seeing him upset, so how can I help him thru it?
1) it's not about you. 2) listen. Intently. 3) No matter what he does, says, just support him. don't impose you view as you made very clear above, he is without question going to see life very differently from how you see it. 4) Support him, save your philosphy, agenda, beliefs for another time. Do what you can for his father while he is still alive, donate your time. Watch his kids, mind his house, etc. buy him time with his loved one. Listen. Time is precious at this jucture, do what you can to make him comfotable. 5) Be preapared for anger, denial, and emotional outbursts. Above all just be there. Good, bad, up & down, be a voice a reason and understand that this is a situation of serious emotional confrontation for him, life is changing at a pace he can't comprehend at the momment, just guide him in a postive direction and do what you can to make his situation a little moren tolerable. if you need to chat or seriously need help you can call me on 011 44 789 445 7121 you always welcome to my experience and help.
