Ever wondered...

[Dubya 2.0]

I'm 36 now, and not that I do worry very well, but I do find myself pondering what's next for me? where do I go from here? This doesn't happen all the time, but I have noticed it happening over the last couple of years with monotonous regularity.

It may only be me, but does anyone else feel like this? I know I need a kick up the arse in my life. Even the drugs don't appeal to me too much anymore... :(

[canine_STD]

does anyone else feel like this?
No

[Dubya 2.0]

Yer bastard :lol:

[Dubya 2.0]

I dunno.. I show... lip qivers a softer, gentler side to my nature... and people..nose runsand people.. just trample all over your feelings...tears well up...like fucking big insensitive elephants...

I'm off to the pub.

[unlimited-time]

Do you have a life threatening illness?Are you broke and homeless begging for scraps of food? Are you frail, elderly and all alone in the world?
Do rats scurry across your dirty, damp bedclothes in a war torn village? Have you lost relatives to ethnic cleansing, war, famine or illness?
I think not.

Your fellnig a little low, big fucking deal, get over it as am sure i will have by bedtime.

[unlimited-time]

fellnig=feeling for those who can't read typos.

[pimpchichi]

Your fellnig a little low, big fucking deal, get over it as am sure i will have by bedtime.

ooooooooh... hahahahaha

[Dubya 2.0]

Touche my lil' bleach bunny... has the cloud disappeared? x

[JEFE]

I'm 36 now, and not that I do worry very well, but I do find myself pondering what's next for me? where do I go from here? This doesn't happen all the time, but I have noticed it happening over the last couple of years with monotonous regularity.

It may only be me, but does anyone else feel like this? I know I need a kick up the arse in my life. Even the drugs don't appeal to me too much anymore... :(

What else is going on with you? Are you married? Do you have any kids? I think a lot of people start to feel like this when they get into their thirties and aren't in the place they thought they'd be. This is especially true around the Holidays.

I think it's easy for people to say, "suck it up and get on with life", but I'm sure they've also felt like this at one time or another.

[Dubya 2.0]

Well said Jefe.

I'm in a stagnating relationship with my long-term girlfriend, which is now really more financially viable as opposed to physically singing, if you get my drift.

I was married, no kids, still good friends with my ex, good family support it's just little things that niggle me now, I also think about my past a little more lately (I was involved in Gulf War 1) and I feel pretty bored with the mundane.

I used to be an 'action addict' always trying to get my kicks, but with age and bodily shortcomings I know I'm slowing down...

I suppose my mortality is becoming more apparent.

[unlimited-time]

ok sweetie, on a more serious note.If you really are feeling down in the dumps and bored with life you need change.Think about the things that are good and the things that are not so good and see what you can do.
Maybe move somewhere else, closer to family if you don't live close atm.If your relationship isn't going anywhere and you don't think it can be salvaged get out and start a new one.I've seen what you look like and you seem like a nice guy on line so you won't have any problems in that department.Your still young enough to start afresh and have kids if you want them ( they really do bring a whole new meaning to life).
Don't feel blue, things could be worse, you could be Horus or Dweebo then you wold ahve worries.
And my cloud is still there but i got a big umbrella. :wink:

[DangerousDan]

I also think about my past a little more lately (I was involved in Gulf War 1) and I feel pretty bored with the mundane.


Maybe killing terrorists in this Iraq War game will cheer you up:
http://www.goyk.com/flash.asp?path=702

[canine_STD]

No Dan, Dubya was there in a peacefull, advisory role only. I refuse to accept that dubya could kill anyone.

[Dubya 2.0]

Welllllllllll, not 'directly' as such... more sort of a 'fuse 'em and drop 'em' type role...

[ucicare]

Dubya - I see people everyday that ask the same questions during their mid thirties. The answer is YES many people feel like you.

Interesting ideas about stages in life can be found by reading Erik Eriksons works. He was a brilliant Psychologist who founded the 8 stages of life theory. You might find it enlightening.

Another possibility for mid 30ths funk is a based on attachment theory. Were you raised by your natural mother your entire childhood? Did your family move often? Did you have problems with chronic ear infections or other health issues as a child?

Just curious. Would like to know more.

.....and don't rule out good old fashioned depression. Seratonin deficeincies makes everything suck.


Barry

[JEFE]

I'm in a stagnating relationship with my long-term girlfriend, which is now really more financially viable as opposed to physically singing, if you get my drift.

I used to think that something was wrong with me because, at 33, I've never been married. I don't think it's all that uncommon for people to wait until their mid to late 30's to marry these days. In fact, I'm sure of it. Maybe you did it too soon the first time. Check this out:
http://wtop.com/index.php?sid=348903&nid=104


I was involved in Gulf War 1) and I feel pretty bored with the mundane...I used to be an 'action addict' always trying to get my kicks, but with age and bodily shortcomings I know I'm slowing down...

There's no reason at all why, at 36, you should have any kind of 'bodily shortcoings'. At 36 you should be in about the best shape of your life.

This chick is 36 and plays Womens's Professional Football
http://www.womensportsonline.com/herriges.shtml

At 36, this guy competed in the 1988 Seoul Olympics:
http://www.olympic.org.nz/AthleteProfile.aspx?ID=357&UICode=Athletes&ContactID=1175

Mark Messier is 43 years old.
http://sports.espn.go.com/nhl/players/profile?statsId=0010

Jose Canseco is 40 years old
http://sportsillustrated.cnn.com/baseball/mlb/news/2000/09/13/canseco_ap/

But of course... sadly, the great Rick Flair died at 36, but that was from an overdose.
http://users.vnet.net/shogun/flair.html


I suppose my mortality is becoming more apparent.

So. Don't smoke crack. Get off your ass and exercise a little and you'll probably be just fine.
36 is young, unless you're a horse:
http://equisearch.com/shop/newproducts/agerelationship012403/

Barry probably knows more about this. I think he's actually a shrink. Maybe he can perscribe some medication for you. If not, I'm sure Dwaine could Fed-Ex you something.

[Deebo57]

But of course... sadly, the great Rick Flair died at 36, but that was from an overdose.
http://users.vnet.net/shogun/flair.html


you sure about that? read that carefully or just turn on the Tv and watch wrestling beacause if he's dead then his ghost is still wrestling

[ucicare]

[quote="Dubya 2.0"]I dunno.. I show... lip qivers a softer, gentler side to my nature... and people..nose runsand people.. just trample all over your feelings...tears well up...like fucking big insensitive elephants...


In reference to insensitive people, my next to favorite quote applies

"Hurt people hurt people."

(espcially when they can do it anonymously)

Be encouraged. My 40's are better than my 30's.


Barry

[ucicare]

This forim neads a spel cheker real bad. I suck at speling.

Barry

[JEFE]

you sure about that? read that carefully or just turn on the Tv and watch wrestling beacause if he's dead then his ghost is still wrestling

Whoops. My bad. I don't know shit about "rastling". I got him confused with Brian "The Loose Cannon" Pillman.
http://www.canoe.ca/SlamWrestlingPillman/oct6_pillman.html

[Dubya 2.0]

Interesting ideas about stages in life can be found by reading Erik Eriksons works. He was a brilliant Psychologist who founded the 8 stages of life theory. You might find it enlightening.

Link? That sounds like a must read for me.

Did you have problems with chronic ear infections or other health issues as a child?

That is very astute, I wear a hearing aid in my left ear dur to 'noise exposure' from my militaruy service (read into that what you will) but it is a hereditary condition that was aggravated by my time in the forces...

[Dubya 2.0]

In reference to insensitive people, my next to favorite quote applies
"Hurt people hurt people."
(espcially when they can do it anonymously)
Be encouraged. My 40's are better than my 30's.

Cheers fella...

It seems that I am veering into self-pity but that is not the case at all, the only way I can feel I can communicate effectively is anonymously, that is probably my biggest 'issue' of all.

Thanks to those who have contributed positively in this thread, it has been enlightening...

[ucicare]

Dubya wrote - ... feel I can communicate effectively is anonymously, that is probably my biggest 'issue' of all.

When I made the reference about "anonymously hurting" I was not reffering to you. I was a little surprised that others were so insensitive towards you when you asked a legitimate and fairly personal question, hence the quote "hurt people hurt people".

To quote an ancient Southern phrase, "I ain't agin' ya, I'm fer ya". Sorry for asking personal questions in a public forum. Lost my professionalism for a bit, won't happen again.

Barry

[Dubya 2.0]

To quote an ancient Southern phrase, "I ain't agin' ya, I'm fer ya". Sorry for asking personal questions in a public forum. Lost my professionalism for a bit, won't happen again.

Your honesty is appreciated. Chin chin...

[unlimited-time]

When I made the reference about "anonymously hurting" I was not reffering to you. I was a little surprised that others were so insensitive towards you when you asked a legitimate and fairly personal question, hence the quote "hurt people hurt people".



See you've totaly jumped to conclusions there, you have no idea what i was referring to when i spoke to Dubya, he understood and knew it wasn't me trying to "hurt" him.OK oh sensitive one.

[Schmed]

You know iI really havnt read or clicked on any of the shit written past what Dubya originally wrote, except UT's stuff. but I'd like to chime in here and say im 30 and sometimes I wonder why i have not yet joined the rat race (i.e. put my computer skills to use and make 100k plus a year like all my stupid friends,) but I don't want too ultimatly, I'd rather be content than fucking breaking my neck to make an extra buck...end of story. Life has treated me with an exceptional gift, I'm still alvie and eating ..if that isnt good i dont know what is.

[Dubya 2.0]

That is pretty much like myself, I do enough to get by, pay the bills and have enough left over to eat, sleep and drink well... I used to work in a big advertising agency in London for a few years from the mid 90's and I was completely exhausted all the time.

I had a trendy flat, nice car, holidays... all that palaver, but it didn't make me happy. I now live in a little, cold cottage banging out enough design work to keep my head above water, and I am, although this thread seems to say different, a lot happier now that I have been.

I think it's just personal issues I'm up against...

The rat race sucks and I shall never, ever be jumpimg on that treadmill again.

[JEFE]

Ahh ha. Never say never.

[Dubya 2.0]

Never.